Back in 1962, Joe Gauld, founder of Hyde School, had a crisis of conscience because he felt the American education system was too focused on achievement and not enough on character. He shares with us the founding of the first Hyde School in 1966, stating that the school was founded on the belief that, “Every individual is gifted with a unique potential that defines a destiny.” Later, he learned the school must incorporate an essential parent program, as he discovered that “Home is the primary classroom, and parents are the primary teachers.” He also shares that parents need to go through the same process as the kids.
Joe talks about how distractions – those parts of us that take us off track from being our best - in both parents and kids, can cause shame; but once these are realized simply as distractions, we can deal with the shame and move on.
In Joe’s words, “I think that parents today are too worried about parenting, and the worry takes away their strength in parenting. It’s just a matter of connecting with their kids, recognizing that their kids want to grow and they just want someone to help them grow.”
Lastly, he talks about the importance of vulnerability in order to grow. And he recommends two things parents need to do. You’ll find them in the podcast.
Laura Main is an educator who knew that her son was not getting what he needed in his hometown, public school setting. He was classified as a special needs kid, but no one was paying attention to what those special needs were, nor was anyone concerned that this student live up to his unique potential.
After being told by a psychiatrist that she was “wasting her money” sending her son to her, Laura found Hyde School. Here her son turned into a “special kid,” not a special needs kid, thanks to the dedication and vision of the faculty at the Hyde School in Woodstock. He became a leader who learned to speak in front of large groups, and he loved learning to be part of a team.
Tune in to hear Laura’s story about how Hyde helped not only her son, but herself and her entire family.
After sending her son to a wilderness program, Fern Weis had learned about The Hyde School and knew it was the right place for her son and their family. Two things sold her on Hyde: the 24/7 character culture and the parent program.
“We were good people,’ she said, “and we tried our hardest, but our good intentions were not enough. We didn’t give our son credit for being able to maneuver through life; instead of going for his best, we were always trying to prevent the worst.”
A former teacher now turned parent coach, Fern finds that most of her clients are frustrated with the lack of communication they have with their teen and the deterioration of the relationship. She also sees a lot of parents who are abdicating their role as a parent.
In this podcast, learn Fern’s tips for changing the dynamic with your teen.
Is Hyde really a school for parents? Malcolm Gauld shares his journey as a student at Hyde, a faculty member at Hyde, as the Head of School, and his journey as a parent in the program.
He also shares some insight into the teen mind. Find out the answer he gets when Hyde asks students, “If you had a serious life problem and you needed to get some help, who would you seek? Would you choose your parents? Would you choose a Hyde faculty?”
On what exactly “family-based character education” is, he states—“if you put great teaching up against poor parenting, poor parenting will win as the ultimate influence in a young person’s life. What we need to do is have great teaching and great parenting.”
On the Hyde School Family Education program, “The parent program at Hyde, for me,” says Malcolm, “was my deepest experience as a Hyde person. It caught me a little bit by surprise.”
Having worked with teens and their families for decades, Malcolm has also developed some keen insights into the college process, and shares his #1 rule that, if followed, seems to always guarantee a student will be successful in college.
Wouldn't it be great to be a parent who didn't fear failure for your child? Who didn't worry if your daughter studied or not for the biggest test of the semester? Who trusted that if the grade wasn't what she was capable of, she would speak to the teacher and take care of it, not you, the parent?
How can one become this kind of mom or dad, who knows when to take hold and when to let go?
Listen to Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, to find out. You'll start to understand the deep reasoning she uses to explain the importance of allowing your children to struggle, and how to be the kind of parent who puts raising competent, capable adults ahead of their own happiness.