Parenting Teens: The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have Podcast

Do you feel that parenting teens is the biggest job you’ll ever have? Are you wondering about how to help your child discover his or her unique potential? Are you dedicated to raising a child with character and integrity? Based on the Hyde School’s philosophy of “parents are the primary teachers and the home is the primary classroom,” this podcast was created to help parents understand just how to put this philosophy in place in the home, and to discover the transformative outcomes that happen in families who implement it. You will hear from not only experts in the field of raising teenagers, such as educational consultants, authors, and therapists, but also hear from former Hyde parents and students who share their stories of challenges and triumphs on this journey. We welcome you to jump in and start discovering some “ah ha” moments and practices you can implement right away to bring your family closer together and raise self-confident teenagers with character who become inspiring adults.
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Aug 6, 2018

"The greatest impact on children are the unlived lives of adults.”  Carl Jung

In our last five parenting mantras, Laura Gauld, co-author of the book, The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have, mentions this quote “We need the help of others to get to our own greatness as parents.”

The mantras in this podcast are about living the kind of life as a parent that will inspire our children; that will model character for them; and that will show our kids our spirit.

The final five mantras are:

  1. Others see you as you cannot see yourself.
  2. Embrace curiosity and learn something new each day.
  3. IPSES: Intellectual, Physical, Spiritual, Emotional, Social
  4. No one taps into their greatness without the help of others.
  5. Inspiration: Job # 1
Jul 30, 2018

Do you see your teen in a way that is only one dimensional?  Does your teen see you the same way?

This is a question that Kristin Harman, Director of Admissions at the Hyde School, encourages parents to look at as they decide if they want to start parenting in the exceptional way that The Biggest Job Family Program teaches parents to do.

After working at seven different schools in her career, Kristin came to the Hyde School. She finds that the interview process helps kids and parents listen differently to each other and this begins to establish a deeper trust in each other.

In this podcast, Kristin also talks about how she views the influence of social media; the increase of anxiety in teens; and answers the question, “Is depression sometimes a mask for anxiety?”

Jul 16, 2018

Parenting as Partners by Vicki HoefleWhen big parenting issues come up, do you ever think “…if only he/she would just do it my way? Then we could solve this and move on!”

As you well know, it doesn’t usually happen this way. “Kids highlight the real challenge in the family: the one between the parenting partners,” writes Vicki in this wonderful hands-on book.

A true proponent of fostering independence in kids, Vicki teaches us that looking at how we were parented and melding that with the experience of our partner is truly a challenge. She believes that “having a strong marriage and having solid parenting strategies is not enough to successfully negotiate the tricky terrain of co-parenting with someone who has an entirely different idea on how to raise the kids.”

So how do we meld ideas on parenting in order to co-parent? This book (and this podcast) will help get you started.

You can find Vicki at

You can also listen to our first interview with Vicki, about her book Duct Tape Parenting.

Jul 9, 2018

We learn in today’s podcast with speaker and author, Laura Gauld, that the word “accept” is an important part of parenting.  Laura talks about accepting what our own parents gave us, taking a look at how we listen, and actually reaching out and seeking honesty about how others see us. 

Today’s mantras are:

  1. Accept what your own parents gave you, what they tried to give you and what they were unable to give you.
  2. Get up every day and model character in the little moments.
  3. Give others permission to be totally honest with you.
  4. Do something each day for your pure joy.
  5. Share successes and failures with your child.
Jul 2, 2018

Are you trying to be “the perfect mom?” Think you’re “not very good at being a mother…?”  This podcast and book are for you!

Mommy Burnout by Dr. Sheryl ZieglerMommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Children in the Process

Although the title of this book, by Dr. Sheryl Ziegler, might sound like a book for mothers of younger children, be assured that it’s not. Moms of teenagers experience burnout too, and can benefit from not only listening to this podcast but also reading the book.

Burnout has its symptoms and it has its remedies, and Dr. Ziegler is an expert in both. In our podcast, Dr. Ziegler talks about how burnout can affect so many parts of a woman’s life: friendships, partnerships, work, and of course, our kids.

The podcast is a great introduction to a book I highly recommend. Dr. Ziegler can be found at; and the book at

Jun 25, 2018

“We will be parents until we breathe our last breath.”  - Laura Gauld

This parenting fundamental and the mantras that explain it teach us the importance of continuing to grow and change as parents. We are never too old to look at our own attitudes and change the ones that might be holding us back; or to take risks in our lives.

The five mantras in this podcast are:

  1. Lead by example.
  2. Respect yourself.
  3. Grow, risk and change.
  4. Take risks in front of your child.
  5. Tackle the deep attitudes that hold you back.
Jun 18, 2018

“Our conscience is the compass of our destiny.”   - Laura Gauld

So how do we teach conscience to our kids? Advice on that, and the last five mantras of Parenting Fundamental # 4 are discussed in today’s podcast with Laura.

  1. Let your conscience be your guide.
  2. See the small moments of inspiration.
  3. The darkest times bring about the deepest lessons.
  4. Do not compare yourself or your child to others.
  5. Trust in a higher power.

Discover more advice from the parenting village at

Jun 11, 2018

Grit is a word that we hear a lot these days; we talk about it in the Biggest Job Workshops, and in part 2 of our conversation with Rebecca Mannis, a learning specialist who founded Ivy-Prep, we learn that grit is something that can be intentionally taught to kids.

“There are ways in which we can step back and understand what our responses are and appreciate our experience”, Dr. Mannis says. “Encourage your kids to appreciate why it is they may be feeling a certain way; encourage them to try something even if it brings up discomfort.” 

Dr. Mannis also shares in this podcast her views about how technology has increased anxiety in kids.

Her website:

May 14, 2018

This is an intriguing question that Neha Gupta, founder of Elite Private Tutors and College Shortcuts answers on her blog at .

Neha’s enthusiasm for what she does shines through in what she shares with us about how to motivate students, how to give them confidence, and her warning about how the common app might make every applicant common.  “What is that thing that makes you, you?” she asks students?

Neha can be found at and

She is also a speaker and author of the book, The 4-Year Plan, which you can find on her website and costs only the shipping charges.

Apr 30, 2018

Parenting Fundamental 4: Have faith in your child’s unique potential and the larger forces at work.

This 13th podcast with Laura Gauld is a special one. (Not that they aren’t all great!)

This fourth fundamental is a wonderful tool to help us as parents let go when things go off track – getting out of the way so our kids can experience some short-term struggles for long-term gain - learning something about themselves, acquiring some grit and some courage. Laura also talks about labels we put on our kids and the importance of creating a partnership based on trust with your child’s teachers and coaches.

Today’s mantras are:

  1. Allow obstacles to become opportunities
  2. Resist labels of any kind
  3. Give others permission to challenge your child
  4. Who you are is more important than what you can do.
  5. "Your children are not your children."
Apr 23, 2018

Did you know that a college application only gets minutes in front of admissions officers? How do you construct an application that stands out in this sea of competition?

With four million seniors each year competing for coveted spots at colleges, an application needs to effectively communicate a student’s achievements and potential to give them the best chance at admission - whether your student is applying to an Ivy League or a different dream school.

Today we are speaking with Amber Jin, the founder of Get Into Ivy, about the college application process - from the number one mistake students make, to must-have elements that will help them make an impression on admissions officers. 

Parents, you’ll want your student to listen in, and you will want to tune in until the end to find out where you can be most impactful in the process. 

Visit for a very informative article for parents called The Parents’ Guide to College Application; and additional tools and resources to guide you and your student through the college application process. 

Apr 16, 2018

Do you remember the power of a “look” from your parents when you were growing up? That’s the first mantra discussed on this podcast with Laura Gauld, as we wrap up parenting fundamental #3 on building family traditions.  How did we know what our parents meant when they gave us the “look”, and how can we get back to that in parenting today?

Full of great tips, this conversation covers Mantras 56-60:

  1. Remember the power of a “look”
  2. Always call the other parents
  3. What you pay attention to is what you reinforce
  4. Go to your children’s physical location
  5. Keep one foot in front of the other.
Apr 2, 2018

“If you want to go fast in your life, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”  African Proverb

“Life is not just about taking care of ourselves.”  Laura Gauld

Both of the above quotes are covered in this podcast, as well as many other meaningful tips from mantras 46 – 50 under Parenting Fundamental # 3: Build Family Traditions:

  1. Light candles at the dinner table (or at breakfast or lunch!)
  2. Talk to your child when you are in the car (and listen to them also.)
  3. Family jobs (Are you teaching your child how to work?)
  4. Reach out and give back as a family (Kids will remember this family experience.)
  5. Bring rigor, synergy and conscience into the home. (What does this really mean?)
Mar 26, 2018

“When parents change the way they interact with their sons and daughters, they pave the way for transformation.”

Bobbie DePorter book coverBobbi DePorter is the founder of Super Camp, a camp for kids that’s been around for 35 years and is now in 19 different countries.

While Super Camp is for kids, The Seven Biggest Teen Problems and How to Turn Them into Strengths is a book written for parents to help them see what changes they need to make to effect changes in their children.

“We’re different from most other programs because we’re purposefully evolving,” says Bobbi in her book. She and her team of facilitators have identified the most common difficulties they see teens facing and boiled them down to seven main issues:

  1. Troubled Relationships
  2. Emotional Hurt
  3. Negative Self-Image
  4. Fear of Disruptive Change
  5. Poor Grades
  6. Lack of Focus
  7. Low Motivation

You can find Bobbi at

Mar 19, 2018

"The big picture of raising children is done with the actions, routines and practices that make up lifetime memories, habits and character," says Laura Gauld, author and head of Hyde School. "It is never too late to start a family tradition and often the value of these actions is seen looking back at one’s upbringing."

In this podcast, she covers the first 5 mantras for Parenting Fundamental #3 -  Build Family Traditions (#41-45):

  1. Make attitude everything
  2. Center the family on honesty
  3. Write letters
  4. Family meeting
  5. Mandatory fun
Mar 12, 2018

One of the mantras Laura Gauld discusses with us in today’s podcast is “don’t lie, don’t quit.”  This is a great lesson for kids and adults and a very simple thing to remember.  If I’m off track in my life, I won’t lie about it and I won’t give up. I can imagine our kids remembering this mantra when they are adults if they hear it often enough from us, and probably repeating it to their kids. (See below for all the mantras in today’s podcast.)

There are other great tidbits and lots of helpful information in this conversation, as we wrap up the lessons for our second parenting fundamental: Raise children to be accountable to life. 

Mantras 36-40:

  1. “Is this my issue?”
  2. “Look for the positive but do not over gush.”
  3. “If you think they are doing a little, they are doing a lot.”
  4. “Don’t lie, don’t quit.”
  5. “Show up early and stay late.”
Mar 5, 2018

"Why do we have kids wanting to shoot up a school?"

This is the question Joe Gauld, founder of The Hyde School in Bath, Maine, asks at the beginning of this podcast. Thus starts his explanation of looking at a deeper lesson in the Florida School schooting, rather than just a band aid solution to our national crises of school shootings.

“Develop a safe place or sanctuary,” Joe proposes, “that will allow students to trust that teachers see the best in them and want the best for them. Then let the school be student-centered, based on the character development of each individual as well as the academic development of the kids. In this way we will begin to get rid of the resentment and bullying that has happened as a result of focusing totally on achievement.” 

There is a lot of wisdom in what Joe shares with us on this podcast. You can see his full article in the Portland Press Herald:

Feb 26, 2018

Hilary Jacobs Hendel It's Not Always Depression

Are you worried about a teen who says they are depressed? Do you see anxiety in your teen? Do you find vagueness a part of yours or your teen’s communication?

In part two of our podcast series with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, we learn about what to do if a teen says they are depressed or if they exhibit anxiety. Hilary talks about the importance of roots and wings for our children, the difference between healthy and unhealthy shame in parenting, and why families fall into vagueness as a defense in their communication with one another.

You can find Hilary at and her book at Amazon.

Feb 19, 2018

Can you laugh at yourself during some tough parenting moments? Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? It is possible, says Laura Gauld in our 7th podcast interview in which she shares with us more wisdom from Parenting Fundamental #2: Raise children to be accountable to life.

Laura also shares with us the necessity of teaching our children to delay gratification, and the importance of teaching them how to work. 

Mantras 31-35:

  1. Never negotiate with a terrorist attitude
  2. Delay gratification
  3. Look for humor and laughter
  4. Principles over rules
  5. Teach your child to work.
Feb 12, 2018

Raising Parents, Raising Kids, by Dawn Menken

“What would we have needed in order to be able to talk openly about issues of suicide, teen pregnancy, birth control, addiction, or abuse, (to our parents)?”  Dawn Menken in Raising Parents, Raising Kids.

Dawn Menken, author, teacher and workshop leader, has graciously joined us for a second podcast to talk in depth about the issue of bullying. She discusses the four roles of any bullying situation and says each can be alive in all of us at any given time:

  • Victim
  • Oppressor
  • Witness
  • Facilitator

She gives tips for parents on how to help children understand what’s at the root of bullying; what parents need to look at in themselves that might be promoting bullying attitudes in their children; and the responsibility parents have in helping to prevent and deal with bullying.

My biggest take-aways from this podcast were learning Dawn’s approach to back talk from our teens, learning how to help a child who is sworn to secrecy by a friend whose secret needs to be known, and the subtlety of where bullying comes from in families.

This podcast is one not to be missed!

Find Dawn at:

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Jan 29, 2018

Tricia Uber, Director of College Counseling at Hyde School, advises parents on how much to be involved in the college application process, and where to leave things up to the student. "Students need to have a team for the application and decision process," she says, "but the final decision should be up to the student."

Listen to this podcast and get more advice and wisdom about the entire college application process from Tricia, some of which may surprise you! 

Jan 22, 2018

This sounds like a parenting conundrum, doesn’t it? So many parenting moments are moments of doubting what the outcome will be, and often doubting ourselves. That’s when we need to go back to our principles, and assure ourselves that even a bad outcome will move us into a new place of learning – about ourselves, as well as our children.

This podcast is filled with gems of parenting wisdom from author and head of Hyde School, Laura Gauld.  The mantras we discuss include,

  1. This could be good, or this could be bad.
  2. Be ready to go to the wall.
  3. Let your child struggle without stepping in to lessen the discomfort.
  4. When your child screws up, take them back to the scene of the crime to make amends.
  5. Allow your children the same struggles that shaped you.
Jan 15, 2018

Are you worried about a child using substances? Would you like to know how to speak with your teen about substance use? 

In this podcast we hear from Geno Ring, Certified Alcohol and Drug counselor, as he shares his 34 years of experience as a substance abuse counselor with us. Geno is not only knowledgeable about the dangers of substance abuse in teenagers, he also has great advice for parents.

While he advocates finding a counselor in your area so you can meet in person, you can find Geno at this confidential email address: 

Jan 8, 2018

Just the title of this parenting fundamental tells us that parenting is a big job! If we want to help our children grow into responsible adults, with a moral compass and a conscience that guides them, we need to keep in mind that our goal, even when they are teens, is to help them thrive and become independent.

As Laura says in this podcast, “The world is not their mother.”

The five mantras Laura Gauld and I discuss are,

  1. Do not do for your children what they can do for themselves.
  2. The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.
  3. Value success and failure
  4. Treat your child as if they were someone else’s
  5. As a matter of practice, expect your child to do things they may not want to do, just because.
Dec 25, 2017

Do you want your children to grow up trusting their instincts? Of course you do!  You want them to take responsible risks, trust themselves, have grit, and be respectful – of themselves as well as to others.

This podcast, covering the last five mantras or lessons of Parenting Fundamental # 1: Understand Your Job as Parents, will give you clues on how to teach and model that, as well as many other tips on making parenting just that much easier and fun.

  1. Let go of good guy/bad guy roles.
    If our children see us as parents always in the same box, they will stay in their box. Change and you will inspire change in your child.
  2. Love your child yet resist seeking their love.
    If you know you love your child, let go of groveling for the scraps of affection. Seek their respect and you will receive all the love you need in time.
  3. Parents need a community.
    We cannot do this important job alone even if we have a supportive partner. Create the village that you need.
  4. The more you talk, the more you lose.
    When you are not happy with your child’s attitude, say less and communicate more with a look and silent listening. You will be amazed how the burden will shift to your child to figure it out.
  5. Inspiration: Job #1.
    We will not inspire our children with our wins, salaries, awards, etc. We will inspire them when we share struggles, take risks, move forward and model daily character.


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